anxiety attacks please help?
ive had an anxiety problem since i was 8…i didnt know what it was until recently but it all started when my parents went out of town and i had to stay with my aunt…i dont know why or what caused it but i freaked out and had anxiety attack after anxiety attack until my parents came back…after that i couldnt even spend the night at my friends house down the road…every time i tried i would just panic and have an anxiety attack
this lasted til i was 14 or 15 and one day i tried spending the night at a friends house and with a lot of calming myself i made it through the night
after that my anxiety subsided until about two years ago when i was 18 i was in a horrible relationship and i got really depressed and sometimes i would just have anxiety attacks they werent that bad and only about once a month
then i broke up with him at the begining of this year im 20 now…i know it took me a long time to get out of that horrible relationship but after i left him i started hanging out with new guys and every time i would hang out with someone i would feel sooo bad like i was doing something wrong i wouldnt even be able to eat
i eventually got over the whole guilty thing but i still have anxiety im in an open relationship not the kind where you can sex anyone you want just the kind where we can talk to who ever we want and not every time but when my “bf” would talk to certain girls it would trigger my anxiety i just get a bad feeling about some of the girls like they’re going to take them away from me
but now its gotten so bad when ever he even goes out i have a full blown anxiety attack and sometimes its not even him that triggers them i will be sitting in class and i will have to leave because i have an anxiety attack and i cant tell you why or whats wrong but i hate this i have nooo idea what to do
i cant tell my mom because ever since i was 8 she has said its just in my head and i need to cut it out
its gotten so bad ive lost almost 30lbs since september
im kind of a bigger girl i started out at about 185 and im down to 159 and i didnt even do anything i just cant eat
i dont know what to do please help
i have GAD got it from a bad weed experince.. long story short im getting better.. i take GABA… its the best thing ive tired for my anxiety .. all medications didn’t work for me.. hope this helped a bit./ bets regards
It sounds like you have some unresolved issues with abandonment… You sound like you’ve tried to deal with things on your own, which is very courageous, but I think it’s time you talk to a counselor. Your parents left you and that triggered your Anxiety attacks, unfortunately your run with a negative relationship didn’t help (This may have made your feel a type of abandonment as well); which in turns makes you distrust your current relationship. In a way, you have been feeling disrespected by the people you have trusted the most.
Your current bf needs to know about this so that hopefully he can give you better support and reaffirmation while you deal with this.
Do go to a counselor or psychologist, there are many ways of talk-therapy that could help you; I wouldn’t jump on medication right away, unless the anxiety is so severe that it’s keeping you from living a normal life. This is a common type of disorder and there are ways to deal with it, so don’t be discouraged and good luck!!
It sounds like you understand you are having attacks. That is a start. I would find the book “hope and help for your nerves”. Stupid title, but I read it twice and with some meds, got over my horrible anxiety attacks. Sounds like a control issue, which was my issue. Got to let go!
There certainly are people and places you can reach out to who can help you a tad more than yahoo answers. Anxiety can truly be debilitating. It doesn’t have to control your life but you most likely will need professional help to understand and overcome it. This doesn’t necessarily mean medication but in the short term that may help. Google or look in your phone book for mental health information. Call someone and explain your situation. You needn’t tell your family. My impression is that you are an adult woman and mom no longer needs all the intimate details of your life if she won’t or can’t be an emotional support to you. Move on to those who will be. Perhaps she’ll understand in time. If not-so be it.
And remember to breath! Deep slow breathes when you feel the anxiety begin to build.
Make some calls now, googe around. Find the helping hands that are out there. You mention being in class. Perhaps there are resources at your school/college you can use. Check it out
Good luck, my friend. Life is short, enjoy the ride.
Leave your response!
Recent Posts
Recent Comments
Calendar
Pages
Share
Page Rank
Helpful Resources
Tags
Recent Comments
Most Commented
Meta