We have a 12 yr old with PDD/autism and we need suggestions on getting him to mind and stop lying.?

He was diagnosed with PDD last year finally and that answered some questions we had. He constantly does things that he knows is wrong and he constantly lies. It is so frustrating for us we just don’t know how to handle this, all the ways we have tried is not working. He is 12 yrs old but his phys. eval. put him mentally at 6 to 7 yrs old. He has ADHD, Anxiety disorder, Dyslexia, Numerical Dyslexia, Definent Disorder, which really makes it bad. If you have any suggestions please let me know.

There are several things to consider.
1. Is he lying to get your attention or to get out of potential trouble?
2. How are you responding to the lying and misbehavior? If you are getting very angry and giving him lots of attention for the behavior, that alone could be reinforcing it.
Things you might do:
1. Give him a TON of attention when he is doing the right thing.
2. When he is caught in a lie, be calm and firm. Do not show angry facial expressions. Impose whatever consequences you have decided to use. Do this every time.
3. These children are highly visual, so take some pictures of him doing the right thing and make a chart. At the beginning of each day, go through the things that are right. Tell him he will get a star every time he chooses to do the right thing. Set a goal for how many stars he needs to get to receive the reinforcer. Show him a picture of the reinforce. Set the goals low at first so he is able to get the reinforcer. Then fade it by requiring more stars. Do this SLOWLY!
4. When he makes the wrong choice, take him to the chart and show him what the right choice would be. Tell him kindly that you regret that he made the wrong choice and that you can’t give him a star. If it is possible, let him try again to make the right choice and then give him a star.
5. Use a highly valued reinforce and make sure you set his goal low enough at first so that he gets the reinforcer. Be sure when giving a star or reinforcer, to praise him lavishly. This will help him pair a tangible with an intangible and eventually, you may be able to fade out the tangible.

I hope something like this works for you.

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