I want a family but my husband doesnt?

We have known each other for 12 yrs. The door was never completly closed on the child issue. I assumed he would want children. I was wrong.

you have to do what you feel in your heart, maybe he is not your forever guy the one you see yourself sitting ont he front porch with in 40 years watching grand kids playing out side and you look at each other and know without a doubt you love each other just as much that day as the day you met.

Do not let wanting kids stress you out to the point you have extreme anxiety though. god definitely has a plan for your life. As him to show you what it is.

you have to do what you feel in your heart, walking away might be the answer especially if he is unwilling to change his mind. I just wonder why he is so against having a child most men want a namesake and child to love at some point in life.

Good luck getting divorced was the hardest decision I ever made I had children when I did two girls who were 3 and 1 1/2 and a 6 month old boy and my husband enjoyed making them but did not want to be a dad. so I was basicaly a married single parents really they are now 16, 14 and 13 and I also have a 10 yr old from current husband, married a wonderful man a few years ago. every sacrifice I made was proven true and a good choice when my oldest wrote this paper last year for school:
You have to do what you feel in your heart. I have been there exactly where you are and it sucks. You have to decide if you are ready for the struggle of being a single parent. For me, I woke up one morning and decided I would rather be single and happy than married and lonely and miserable. Yes it is possible to live in a house with 4 other people and be lonely. My kids were two girls 3 and 1 1/2 and a boy 6 months old. you can do it if you choose to. Everyone I was close to thought I was crazy, asking how you going to do it alone? I just replied I already am anyway basically. Here is a paper my daughter oldest daughter who is now 16 wrote for school last year. When I read it I realized every moment, every Sacrifice and even every struggle was worth it and still is. I hope you realize it i will be for you no matter what you decide to do also.

Courtney S.

February 4,2007

A Mother like No Other

The person who has influenced my life the most is my Mother. I chose to write about her simply because she has been everything in my life. She is an educated loving Mother, who has basically been a single parent to me and my three siblings for most of our lives. My Mother graduated from High School and further extended her education in college. She holds a degree in Business and a nursing license. She married my Father at the age of twenty-one and had me at the age of twenty-two. My parents divorced when I was three years old. After the divorce there was never once a moment when she didn’t express her love for me or the importance of doing well in school, being involved and seizing opportunities. My Mother is the reason I have achieved so many of my goals in my life so far, such as, doing well in school, class president, joining sports teams, and success in music. As I continue to grow up more things are added to my already busy schedule. Without my Mother I wouldn’t be the person I am now. Without her sacrifices of things she wanted or needed I wouldn’t have been able to seize so many opportunities. In order to be present in our lives my Mother would often take lower paying nursing jobs with more flexible schedules. She always made sure she was available whenever we needed her. Whether we needed a ride or just her support and attention she is always there. Now that I am older it is easier for me to see all that she has really done and how it has affected my life. She has taken the time to teach me that the only person responsible for my happiness and success in life is me. She told me that if I truly want something then to go after it. I was told not to let anything or anyone hold me back. I grew up knowing that I could become anything I wanted. Not only did she tell me all of this, she followed through with it. She supports my dream to graduate from High school, go to college, study medicine, become a doctor and help people. No matter what my goal is she is always there supplying support, from the smallest goal of getting a role in a play to the greatest goal of becoming a doctor. Besides all of the facts I mentioned there is something greater that my Mother has taught me. My Mother has and continues to teach me how to love. Everyday of my life I learn something new about being a mother or loving someone. Without my Mother I wouldn’t know what love really is. I do not think I will ever be able to thank her enough for all the support and love she has shown me over the years, and all the years to come. I love her and she is without a doubt the biggest influence in my life.

good luck and remember God never gives up more than we can handle. Try going to www.joycemeyers.org I start my morning every day with my coffee watching her show on line ( no commercials that way) and you can watch it when you have time. She is a best selling author and speak who has a show called “enjoying everyday life”. she talks about real life things we as adults go through like kids, chores, bills how to be a confident woman, making a fresh start and more. She is funny, down to earth and amazing. And also when I watch some how amazingly it is just what I need to hear that day. you can also click previous episodes and watch ones you missed. she has gotten me through some rough times and she will help you too I am sure. good luck!

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