How do I deal with an extreme fear of abandonment?
26 April 2010
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Nancy Spungen asked:
I have an extreme fear of abandonment, like everyone I love will leave me to die alone, what causes this and how do I deal with it?
Parents are out of the picture.
I have an extreme fear of abandonment, like everyone I love will leave me to die alone, what causes this and how do I deal with it?
Parents are out of the picture.
you might want to check into Borderline Personality Disorder and see if your behavior falls under 5 or more of its criteria.
Basically, I would say talk to a Psychiatrist, your parents, or someone else you truly trust and will help you.
But it sounds like you want to deal with it yourself.
I say that you should go to your friends, tell them of your fear and help them to help you feel loved, and always accepted.
Try to accept yourself, too. Whether it’s liking the person you see in the mirror, or not getting too discouraged with a bad grade.
It’s all about security, and if you feel more confident about yourself and that the people around you are truly sincere, those fears will eventually go away.
I’d suggest professional help from a doctor or psychologist, primarily.
If you want to attempt to self-diagnose yourself, try searching WebMD or Google by typing in “fear of abandonment.”
I hope you resolve your little hurdle.
Also, read this book. Self-esteem, Third Edition by Matthew McKay, PH.D. and Patrick Fanning. Some of this may be rooted in a lack of self-esteem and confidence. It is hard work, but it is helping me!
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