Simon Bernard asked:


I got fear of heights (Acrophobia), fear of crowds (Demophobia), fear of speaking in public (Glossophobia), fear of Anxiety (Anxiety), fear of work (Ergophobia), fear of learning (Sophophobia), fear of failure (Atychiphobia) and fear of pain (Agliophobia)

Pls don’t make fun of me. The psychiatrist told me that by medication will not solve my problems or fear. How to deal with fears? 3 years i can’t get a job – then now i get alot of fear of going for interview and get a job. Went there is too many people i get more scared and i always keep walking away from the crowd. I get very nervous about fear. My friend told me to face my fear and get along with life. All my friends left me and now i am all alone. It’s very hard for me to face my fear. Pls help me??????
Why is it there is no medication for fear? What if my fear i can’t face and doctor medication never works out then how? What is the best way to deal with my fear? I don’t have happy life or fun life – my life sucks. Everyone keep going away from me. I don’t know why. There is always bad luck happen to me that i first meet my doctor and he was transfer to different hospital, then the priest who i meet, he was transfer to other church, the scoial worker i meet, she was transfer to other place, a girl friend i meet, she screw me up, my friends walk out of me and they hate me. My life sucks and everything is not going well with me. I am scared that i am curse and no one likes me. Why is like that happening to me? why me? i don’t want my life to be like that. I didn’t do any harm to anyone, why my life keeping on going wrong? Why why why?
How i keep getting my fear around, it keep coming to me. Many years has past, that damn fears keeping on bring me down. I try finding ways to deal with my fears and there is no way out and i am stuck. I feel of ending my life and i have alot of dreams of killing myself – jumping from a building, hanging on rope, cutting my wrist, a bus hit me, cutting my head off. I think it’s telling me to do so – the feeling is too strong and it’s calling me. Life is hopeless and useless. No point living my life.
I try finding this book in my country and i can’t find it – “Get out of your mind and into your life” by Steven Hayes. My country doesn’t have all books from other country. If i got the magic in me, it would be great. Yesterday 21/04/2008 i wanted to end my life but lucky my psychiatrist call me over and talk to me and he is willing to help me. He knows that i am deeply wounded in me and i can’t find the happiness in me, only tears in my eye and not very happy in life.

How to Get away from people, go someplace where i can be alone and find myself. How to stop obssesing about what others are thinking about me? and enjoy life?

If i got that confident in me then i can live independently but How to live life independently without emotionally depending on others & becoming more tough mentally?
Why do I need 2 seek cognitive-behavior therapist, if I can deal with my own problem? (But if someone tells me how in here)

How do I overcome fear of telephone calls? I have a fear of answering e telephone, or calling out. I can talk 2 my family or relatives. I can strike up a conversation with my family or relatives just fine. Anyone else at work place or interview or calling someone else (it doesn’t matter who) & I have panic attacks. My fear of telephone conversations. I am trying 2 figure out a way 2 work past tis so I don’t continue e pattern of panic attacks on calls. I have had tis problem since childhood but those times, I don’t have tat much fear of answering calls, e fears start 2 grow bigger. I have tried “working through it”, tat doesn’t work. It never has. It’s ONLY the telephone calls in work place or interview or calling someone else. I saw tis Ads in e newspaper abt e job – admin assistant & salary $1200. So i need tat job & be prepare.