How to overcome the fear of being rejected by a girl?
23 May 2010
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Bubi asked:
I am very shy and have an introverted personality when it comes to girls. therefore, my biggest fear is to be rejected when approaching a girl, and that’s why I never succeed. Any psychological advice to overcome this fear?
I am very shy and have an introverted personality when it comes to girls. therefore, my biggest fear is to be rejected when approaching a girl, and that’s why I never succeed. Any psychological advice to overcome this fear?
My idea was to try to be rejected on purpose, so I would learn to deal with it and wouldn’t be so anxious about that any more.
What do you suggest?
be yourself. if the girl rejects you, it wouldn’t work out between you anyway. rejection isn’t exactly the most life altering awful thing on the planet. it hurts, but it’s not like there aren’t worse things that have happened and are happening.
Dont think too much…
Just Do It.
If not her then somebody else..
a man that doesn’t get rejected is not a man.
there’s always gonna be women out there. dont let it dwell on ya head. if you go with that vibe like “i’m gonna get rejected” u most likely will be. just relax and show confidence
Only ask out girls who you think are into you. And remember that one awkward moment is better than years or a lifetimes of loneliness, you know? Most girls will go out with you on a date, even if they’re not interested from the start. Sometimes guys think that “date” means marriage, when it’s really nothing but dinner!
Saying NO is awkward for girls, just as much as it is for the guy who’s getting rejected… so often a girl will say yes just to avoid this. I went on a date once to avoid saying no and he surprised me and we dated for two years.
Moral of my babbling: just go for it. She’ll probably say yes to you (either out of desire or pity)
Tell yourself it doesn’t matter to you if she says no. That it’s her loss. Yeah, try to get rejected on purpose – you might succeed in not getting rejected at all if you aren’t nervous about it.
well try and act around girls the same way you might around your friends if you do get rejected its not really your fault but it depends on what type of girl you are trying to ask out is she in or out of your league. It is a lot easier when the girl you want to ask out is on her own because she wouldn’t be talking to any of her girlfriends and it may reduce the chances of being humiliated. My friend can’t communicate well with girls unless hes drunk but if you just be yourself then it should be easier to ask a girl out its not an impossible thing to get a girlfriend although many people think it is most girls want a boyfriend just as much as a guy wants a girlfriend. avoid poetry lol before you go into asking her out right away try just to communicate a bit get to know her this may not be the answer that you are looking but I hope that it might help
That one way to overcome fear of rejection, you will simply get used to it and it won’t bother you that much. Also once you “get lucky” that will reinforce the idea that you have to get rejected a few times before your efforts pay off, and you will realize that it isn’t a big deal– it’s part of the game and being shot down shouldn’t bother you knowing that sooner or later you will bag one.
Another way is to learn to pick up on the cues women send when they are interested and want you to approach them. That way you won’t get shot down as much, or get the rude b*tches that will try to be cruel to you when you approach them.
Learn calculated indifference, or do a Rhett Butler: “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a rat’s a$$’.
1) your not alone, most people fear rejection.
2)develop self confidence where you know that you love yourself and you deserve the best even with rejection.
3)know that popular people get rejected too, but they know how to handle it.
4)know that if someone rejects you before knowing you, then he/she is not worth it.
5) living in fear equals not living….so life is short , be adventurous and have fun!
You can’t fear rejection, you have to thrive on it, if you fear it, it becomes a sickness.
If a girl rejects you, then think of it as if she did you a favor, because now you don’t have to waste any more time on her. Now you are free to go talk to someone who is smart enough to see how great a catch you are.
Ask yourself, are you a good person? Are you a good, loyal friend? If the answer is yes, then remember, it is HER loss if she doesn’t want to date you. You have lost nothing, because who wants to date someone who cannot appreciate you?
If she acts rude, or tries to embarrass you (some immature, insecure people will), then say, “I’m sorry that your self esteem is so low, and you are so immature, that you need to be rude to strangers just to feel good about yourself”, and walk away realizing that she did you a favor, because who wants to waste his time dating an insecure jerk? At least you now know what kind of person she is. Aren’t you glad that you didn’t wind up with her as your girlfriend? That would have been hell! She did you a favor by rejecting you, if she is that much of a jerk! You can do better.
Ask a girl this exact thing, if you can remember them in those words. Most women will fall for lines and this isn’t even a line. Go in with an if she rejects me, it doesn’t matter attitude. I’ll bet you don’t get rejected as much.
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