I have anxiety attacks and when i get upset which gets me angry with my kids what should i do?
17 July 2010
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Elizabeth R asked:
When i get upset i get anxiety attacks. I just had my third baby and my other two are under 4 years old. I get so upset when they make a mess or are fighting that i cant breath and i feel tired so i start to yell. I don’t mean to do that i just get so frustrated. I am tired because my baby wakes up every 2 to 3 hours and i feel stressed what should i do?
When i get upset i get anxiety attacks. I just had my third baby and my other two are under 4 years old. I get so upset when they make a mess or are fighting that i cant breath and i feel tired so i start to yell. I don’t mean to do that i just get so frustrated. I am tired because my baby wakes up every 2 to 3 hours and i feel stressed what should i do?
go to the docs and he will deff prescribe you something..to help you cope with it for now untill you dont need them anymore .. i used to take lorazapam .. to help me with stress and panic attacks ,, .. there good cuz you dont have to take them every day .. just when you need the,,
First baby’s feed every 3 hours get used to it. If you ever feel stressed take a second and breathe. You should not rely on meds. But still see a doctor. Also get out of the house. go to the mall, park wherever. If your stuck inside you’ll loose it. Does the father help out. I work then come home and give my wife time off. She works out or goes shopping. You need time away. He NEEDS to help YOU. How about grandparents, aunts and uncles. see if the can stop by for an hour or two. Just so you can sleep. Best of luck
Go get a phsyc evaluation. They will put you on some medicine that will prevent you from having panic attacks.
Boy do I feel your pain! I have a special needs child. I have to correct him and sometimes just go into another room for 3 or 4 mins to calm down because if I didn’t I would have pulled my hair out because I am so stressed. Sounds like you need a break even if it is just for one day. Everyone needs “me” time. Maybe your mom can watch the two older kids and you watch the baby. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. My son is 4 almost 5 and has autism. I have a soon to be step daughter who is 8. I feel more like a referee than a mom at times.
It sounds like you are stressing because you want everything perfect all the time. RELAX, A little mess or noise is not worth getting yourself in a physical tizz about. Of course you are tired, but just because baby is awake doesn’t mean you have to be attending it every minute. If babe is changed and clean and fed and burped, it is fine, give he/she some time on its own. Arrange some time when the older two children can be out with someone else and just rest. Regualr rest is really important. Good luck
Dear Elizabeth,
Lady, you are one tough cookie!!!! THREE kids in under FOUR YEARS!!!! That’s amazingly hard on a woman. You have a REASON for what you are feeling. If you are “yelling” at your kids and having anxiety attacks your body and mind are trying very hard to tell you something.
*I know that there are a GREAT MANY women who have had POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION and they NEVER KNEW IT!!!!
*I would be willing to almost guarantee that could be a BIG part of your problem. It’s only been quite recently, the medical profession has acknowledge it as a REAL and physical ailment/disorder.
*There is NO reason for your to continue to suffer. If your medical doctor (Ob/Gyn) is not qualified to diagnose and treat this disorder …. then you need to find someone who is. You should be able to get a recommendation from any ob/gyn office or contact your local hospital and talk to their referral department.
*The doctor will more than likely prescribe one (or more) of the many medications available now to treat this. He may also recommend some form or counseling and/or therapy. If you have financial concerns many of the clinics and mental health facilities will work with you.
*Don’t wait another day to take action! You and your children need and deserve an opportunity to have a more fulfilling, and happy life together.
*Depression and Anxiety are like Siamese Twins they can be joined together permanently. With diagnosis and treatment you can become the person you truly WANT to be and CAN be.
* Yes babies get up “OFTEN”! YES, they will demand attention whether you have had sleep or not. You probably have 2 if not 3 children in diapers. You did NOT mention a significant other. Is there other family members/adults close to you?
*It’s TIME to ask for some HELP! Get family member(s) and/or friend(s) to: (1) Help you get to the doctor’s office. (2)Help you get the meds you might need. (3) Relieve you by watching the two older kids, ( and if you’re not breast feeding) the baby for a few hours on a REGULAR basis. (4) Look for a “Mommy & Me” group close to you. (5) Ask your church or place of worship for support.
*There are many groups and organizations out there that will be willing to help you…. you just have to ask!!!
*If the children’s father is with you then he can help with much of the above. If there’s grandparents tell them honestly that you are struggling right now and could they help.
*It’s time for you to stop being angry and feeling guilty.
There’s a reason you are feeling so very bad mentally, physically and emotionally. Your KIDS and YOU can have a positive future. Don’t discount them or yourself!
You are all worth the effort needed to get well and healthy again.
Wishing you the strength and courage needed to do what needs to be done and to face the future with HOPE!
seriously get on some meds! it is not normal to have an anxiety attack that often. you are probably under an unhealthy amount of stress. a low dossage of an anti depressant can really help. they just chill you out enougg to make a huge difference. you dont even have to go to a shrink to get a prescription. just go to any family doctor or general practitioner and explain exactly what you typed above. a good doctor would give you a low dossage of something with low side affects. nowadays they know so much about meds! they can almost predict what side affects you might have. not all meds are for everyone so be careful and as soon as one has side effects you dont like-switch!
I WOULD SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP, SEE IF YOUR DOCTOR WILL PRESCRIBE YOU SOMETHING FOR YOUR NERVES. I HAVE THREE BABY GIRLS AND I USE TO GET FRUSTRATED BUT THEY DID NOT UNDERSTAND IT WAS NOT THEM IT WAS ME THE LAST THING YOU WANT IS YOUR CHILDREN AFRAID OF YOU EXPLAIN TO YOUR DOCTOR YOU HAVE ANXIETY THEY WILL HELP .YOU WILL FEEL ALOT BETTER.GOOD LUCK
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