Possible Causes for Social Anxiety
19 July 2010
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Click here for my double meditation album on iTunes: bit.ly This debilitating disorder has its source largely in trauma, sustained early in life. Critical, judgemental upbringings along with repetitive violent communication tend to traumatize people leaving their nervous systems overly sensitive. The person becomes hypervigilent and overly attuned to the outside voices. Their self esteem suffers and an inferiority complex may ensue. While understanding the sources of social anxiety is important, the reality is that the patterns and the neural pathways are already in place thus demanding a cognitive undoing of the condition.
anxiety is such a bullshit problem. But theres always someone who has it worse, thats how i look at it.
I find the best time for positive reinforcement is just before i fall asleep, as it increases the chances of it being embedded into the subconscious. Every night, I repeat, ”Each day, in every way, i’m getting better and better..”, until i drift off. It’s really effective!
Now why cant I find a counselor like you? I have been getting worse and worse in therapy. I’ve been to about 8 or 9 in the past 4 years. Thank you.
It was tearing me apart from the inside out. can’t look anyone in the eye anymore, I have panic attacks and my heart beats even to just ask a question. I am going to try to give myself positive motivation to get out there and try to become normal again. I have an extremely low self esteem, but I want to try to overlook the flaws because I doubt people have the same perspective of me than I do. Thanks again.
Thanks a lot. I really needed to see this video. I’ve been suffering depression/social anxiety, and this made me think back to what may have been the source to cause this. I was “normal” until 3rd grade until I moved to a new school, where i was almost instantly left out, critisized, and afraid… all the way up until 8th grade, then I finally just left school, basically dropped out to try and figure out how to fix this.
CBT has never helped me.
This video was very informative. Thank you so much! I have subscribed to your channel.
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None of you have to live with this anymore. I know the frustration, embarrassment and fear that is involved. Please go to my site. You dont need to buy anything, I promise you its already been paid for fuentesevangelism-.-c-o-m-
You are an amazing person! THANK YOU for all of your help and knowledge, you have guided me to my true self that was underneath a blanket of angst and tension, now I can truly be myself without fear. Your words have started me on my path of self awareness and CONFIDENCE, now i can really move on and LIVE! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are on the money lady.
ive learnd how to feel my true feelings, and ive gone threw serious anxiety since primary school, i feel like its cause i was afraid to go i felt scared but my mother made me go and i cried n didnt wana go, i can even remember walking in and every1 starin at me cause i was cryin so hard i felt like an alien to them cause the whole class was staring at me…. i feel like im startin to really work it all out and releasing it cause its causin me health problems now lol
I’m getting so bored of being socially anxious. What’s annoying is that I actually have great social skills its just that as Ive gotten older Ive had a harder time relaxing and letting my guard down. Partys are often overstimulating and I end up in the bathroom every 20 minutes just to be alone for a bit. What scares me most is that its all self inflicted and that I somehow enjoy the pain. Smoking pot makes it worse and I do that every single day even though I know its hurting me.
Pills, therapy, books about the subconcious mind etc you name it.
In my experience I can truly testify that only The Living GOD has healed me.
Medications from doctors helped me a little and it was temporary.
God’s healing power is ETERNAL!
Now Im not an antidepressant pill dependent.
The cure for fear is FAITH!
Fear limits you.
FAITH ENABLES YOU!
People, THE ALMIGHTY GOD IS YOUR ONLY HOPE.
READ THE WORD OF GOD, HAVE FAITH AND OBEY!
God loves you and He wants you to LET HIM…
wow this is insane i need your help
So, dead on. I grew up the only child to a single mother with NPD. She never talked too me just yelled and scremed at me all the time. And you had to be perfect at all cost. I lived on eggshells almost my entire time with my mom. I never knew what would trigger her rages. So you learn how to self monitor. I am just now starting to understand the affects of growing up like that and I am deaing with it. But, you got it right.
This is extremely true.
what about ppl who are scared of the color yellow..? why that color out of all of the colors?
filipinoandproud- the same thing happened to me before. I had very bad acne and every day would look at my face and complain about it. I started to form anxiety and would worry what people would think of me and how I look. I thought they would think that I am ugly. Then after all of that I got a seizure and am now epileptic…(however u spell)
Almost everything you’ve described is very true for me. I also suffer a lot from acne and had a very low self-esteem. I tried to avoid talking to people, so they wouldn’t stare at my face. Sometimes when I wake up, it really disgusts me to look at myself, but now i really try my best not to think about how i look or care about how others think about me – even though when you look closely at my face you can see red, oily, and inflamed skin – because I know it will go away someday soon.
i feel the same way
i used to have a happy life and had friends well that was like 2 years ago ever sense i developed sicial anxeity i started talking to my friends less and less until i didint have one single friend its horabble
but i am in the process of getting better i so want a happy life again
You described my family experience perfectly.
I have childhood memories of receiving daily public emotional, physical, and mental abuse, which resulted in deep feelings of shame, and always prompted an impulse to escape and hide.I’m still avoidance-oriented and even though I know that I’ve missed out on a lot of life’s experiences, it’s hard to break the pattern.
hey, just want to ask if any single girl in Seattle with social anxiety disorder want to date me. just live me your respond and email i will check back on this video. thank you very much. i think this will help me to overcome my fear. couse i think my fear first started with the girl and kind developed into other part, so now if i overcome that i think its gona lead the way.i encourage girls with those kind of similar anxiety to get at me and i hope it help you too. thanks
Victoria,
I just did a quick youtube search on Social Anxiety, and your title intrigued me to watch, I’ve long been wondering what the reasons are, and WOW you described my familiy life to a tee. Now all I feel is anger towards my family you know? They were never NICE people really, they would do ANYTHING for me, but the mental abuse was at insane levels. You are an angel for making this video and I thank you for sharing your knowledge and support for sufferers of SA
I think you can, you have to practice and try not to focus on the negative toughs, you just need to relax and try not to focus to much on yourself.
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