social anxiety?
29 July 2010
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Curious John asked:
ok so i found out i have social anxiety pretty much. can some1 please tell me ways to make myself feel better and get rid of it without the use of drugs. thank you very much!
ok so i found out i have social anxiety pretty much. can some1 please tell me ways to make myself feel better and get rid of it without the use of drugs. thank you very much!
I have it also, Just try to talk to people and not be shy as much, it will be gradually though.
No one knows you have it unless you told them, so you can choose to avoid a crowd of people or determine that you will walk right through your fears. It’s not a pass or fail course. It’s your life.
Do what you want to do about it. But if you get real FEAR it will follow you to the grave. It doesn’t get better. It snowballs. You have the answers inside you. Remember the first point, no one knows you are nervous or scared or upset unless you tell them.
They will think you are smart and reserved.
take little steps by going out where people are and when it becomes uncomfortable
leave
try again another time
Dealing With Social Phobia
Therapists can help people who have social phobia to develop coping skills to manage their anxiety. This involves understanding and adjusting thoughts and beliefs that help create the anxiety, learning and practicing social skills to increase confidence, and then slowly and gradually practicing these skills in real situations.
One element of the therapy might include learning relaxation techniques (such as breathing and muscle relaxation exercises). Behavioral rehearsal can be helpful as well, during which the therapist and the teen might role play certain situations, trying out new behaviors ahead of time. This can make it much easier and more automatic to put these behaviors into practice when the teen is faced with real situations.
Someone might also learn to correct self-talk that leads to anxiety by learning self-talk that is more positive and promotes self-confidence and builds coping skills. A teen may be guided by a therapist to tune into current thinking about particular situations and to modify certain thoughts, especially worry thoughts.
Understanding Worry Thoughts and Self-Talk
Worry thoughts have particular qualities. They often are in the form of a question that begins “what if . . .” and tend to be negative rather than positive. Examples of worry thoughts include, “What if there’s no one to sit with at lunch?” and “What if I fail the test?” Worry thoughts also tend to get worse and worse, until the person having them expects not just bad things, but the worst possible outcome.
When someone with social phobia thinks about a teacher calling on him or her, chances are that thoughts run through that person’s mind like, “What if I say the wrong thing?” or “What if I make a mistake?” or “What if they laugh at me?” There may also be thoughts like: “I can’t do it. It’s too hard and too scary. I’ll mess up. I’ll get it wrong.” Usually the self-talk makes the anxiety worse and worse, and supports the person’s pattern of avoiding the feared situations. The main messages people give themselves during this self-talk are “It’s too scary” and “I’m not able to cope.”
Therapists can help people identify and examine these thoughts. For example, students who worry about being called on in class might examine how likely it is that they’d actually give the wrong answer: If a student realizes he or she usually knows the right answer, then a mistake would be unlikely. Next the therapist can work on coping skills in case a student does make a mistake and how to replace worry thoughts with calm, reassuring ones when faced with stressful social situations. People might imagine what they’d say to a friend who needed reassurance, for example, and learn to think that way themselves.
For some teens, medications can be helpful as part of the treatment for social phobia. Certain medications that help to regulate the function of serotonin (a brain chemical that helps to transmit electrical messages having to do with mood) are sometimes used. Though medication doesn’t solve the whole problem, it can reduce anxiety so a teen can put into practice some of the positive techniques described above.
I got it to. I just work out a lot and i have a great body because I don’t hang around people to much, i just get chicks. But I have been working on it and haven’t been able to fix it, I also refuse to take drugs and never will it just causes another problem. So try to stay healthy and beat this, I will to godbless goodluck to you
You just have to work on your “I dont care what you think” attitute. Go to the gym and workout and get strong to increase your confidence.
I would consider asking God to help you not be anxious and also when you go into the situation where you feel anxious, focus on as many good things as you can in that situation and thank God for those too.
Repetition and small groups.
I also have social anxiety but unfortunately I didn’t get treatment for it until I was in my 40″s. There are alot of ways to cope with this disease without meds. You can talk to a therapist and cognitive behaviour therapy works wonders for some people. It helps you to deal with your fear.
I am on Paxil and my therapist told me that I will have to be on it for a long time because I waited so long to seek help. Get help now! God bless and good luck.
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